In all your anger you can't be arsed to read what devs posted here? They didn't dodge the question, in fact they answered it several times, saying that things like lobby and ladder were not only in their hand but also a part Steam. They are working on adding it, but can't give a date because third parties are involved....
Also, you CAN play any map of choice, with your friends, with any winning condition of choice. Go to "onling & skirmish" -> "Custom game" -> "invite" -> ... add computers, choose map, change conditions however you like...
Now go into your corner and feel ashamed.
No - that's lobby - as in chat - and ladder - as in ranked result from a game.
There's no mention AT ALL of what people want - which I was particular in thoroughly detailing.
And yes - your weak example of "It's already there" is only applicable IF YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE AND THEY ARE ON YOUR STEAM FRIENDS LIST.
Congratulations - you can now play multiplayer with the 2 other people you know that have the game.
Don't be deliberately ignorant in simplifying the discussion to suit your narrow point of view.
You know how the match making worked in COH1 - we want match making with RANDOM players that can JOIN your game - thats all players want.
So maybe you should check your own attitude at the door - along with your high horse.
Then again - maybe you've never played COH and have no idea as to what I'm talking about.....never know....there's a lot of uniformed people making arguments these days.