see if we can get anywhere with it.
You won't.
As it has been stated before the playerpool is way to shallow to allow a proper matchmaking system. Also, relic has way too few resources to rework it extensively. Their time is much better spent balancing the game and creating content.
If you want a better experience, then play 1v1 (this has nothing to do with narcisism) or find some mates to play with (there's a thread for that around here).
I would however like to see some small changes to the matchmaking myself, including the long demanded random option and maybe some insight on when the search radius is expanded.