Just going to bump this, because now, I'm fairly convinced that Relic will be adding these into the next large patch with both the recent total recall of these commanders from those who had gotten it before, and also with Relic putting my mod that gives players access to these commanders in their monthly mod showcase. Of coarse, I could just be overthinking this entire thing, and I'll wait for someone to throw out a random "keep on dreaming", "/thread", or "playercard please".
We really don't need this. The game already automatically reconnects when connection is lost, which is good enough for me, and many others. As for voice chat, try TeamSpeak and playing with friends for automatch.