on a serious note, the only reason young players are better is because they have much more time on their hands, no family, no or part time job/college, etc.
tbh, I have had a flamer on it and they don't die as fast as you think. Sure they will die but it's not like a split-second gg, you have time and I have got both cars & both snipers out from some nasty spots.
From the games I have played, it's tanks (obv) and upgunned ACs which really hurt. Not found infantry much of a problem
maybe you got some bad luck, for me I've killed the snipers inside multiple times with a flamer.
Shit man, if you hate relic so damn much just don't buy it.
I will say that they have supported it far longer than most other developers would and with 2.602 the only unresolved issue was staghound mg bug. Plus keeping the servers alive with steam was great.