Unpopular opinion: I leave games when team-mates are not going to be civil. If you're going to appoint yourself General, ping the shit out of the map, boss everyone around, then call them names when they don't comply, that's a "see ya" from me. That said, if a team-mate prompts me to do something that I may actually have neglected or forgotten about, that's fine. Just don't be a wiener.
Sounds like a match with ullumulu