There is no series of games quite like CoH. Every time I lose it feels like I lost because of bullshit. It's usually not until I reevaluate it from spectating that I realize mistakes I made. When I win it's pure skill, when I lose it's because the game is shit.

I know your feel. But still now (haven't played in some days and I am totally calm right now) I think that the Allies have way more options for cheesy strats (I play Axis 99% of the time). Sure, the Axis also have a lot of bullshit but that's mostly behind p2w commanders I don't own.
I played several games vs you Highfive, some won some lost, I remember one where I all-in and lose badly (USF vs you OKW on Semois summer), you put your healing truck behind first house top start and I all-in on it with fast capt and lose my stuart/atgun and captain + zooks when I tried to destroy it.
I was Salty, mostly because of those new goddam OKW molotovs. But finally, I didn't even watch the replay to understand my mistakes during the game and I decided to improve the strat
This game is still a reference in my mind on "what to not do!"

Now I always go T1 first anyway as USF.
Something I'm proud of myself about win-because-of-my-skill-lose-because-of-RNG is that I recognize when I win because of RNG. People tend to think they lose or win because of RNG 1 game over 10, I personaly think 1/3 of my victories/defeats are due to RNG. And I accept that, it makes defeat and victories feeling much more stable!