Thanks for the offer Cookie, but I wouldn't waste your time as I've taken all this information on board (I have a diagram next to me written out detailing what I should do in a certain situation).
However I've lost countless games since this game even though I feel my gameplay and game knowledge has improved drastically... Either I'm over thinking it all -OR- I haven't improved as much as I thought. Either way the best thing to do is keep playing. What annoys me though is I played a handful of games as soviets and won, but I feel I played 'better' in my USF games but still lost; but like I said: its practice.
COH2.org community is awesome (and mature), thanks for all the tips guys, maybe they will help others out too
The matchmaking is quite bad. Don't worry about.