I'm not sure you read my post very thoroughly. I *do* enjoy the game. A lot. My concerns are mostly
1. Many "veteran" players constantly bash Relic and are incredibly negative about the game, which I see as a deterrent to new players. I want/need an active community to keep the matchmaking working so I don't end up facing players much better or worse than myself
2. If the game is indeed dying, then I don't see much point in continuing to attempt to learn and improve.
I really enjoy the actual game play, factions etc
My opinion is that this is only a transition phase, especially in regards to "veterans".
CoH2 has its issues for sure, but it also has a lot of potential and is something that will evolve over time.
I think a big reason for much of the negativity and crying by veterans is that they compare CoH2 too much to CoH1. Don't get me wrong of course its a sequal and should be compared to its prequel, but i think many people overextend this comparison by going down into too many details.
While CoH2 is a sequel to CoH1, at the same time it is a new game. Some people seem to have expected CoH2 to be CoH1 with better graphics without any new design elements. Now CoH2 has many new elements which you may like or not. But some people just don't want to get out of their comfort zone or have an open mind to new stuff, thus thes cry about how CoH1 is so much better at this and this compared to CoH2.
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Long story short. CoH2 is a different game than CoH1. In the transition phase some veterans from CoH1 will drift away or go back to CoH1 and while doing so they're quite vocal. After some time the guys who like the game will stay and new veterans will evolve.
Its been the same for CoH1 with its expansions.
If you like the game, stay with it. It's far from being dead.