Simply put, youre wrong.
Those of us who actually play custom games through lobbies, and not just bitch about them, and want it back have had a lot of great and balanced games on the maps we favour and with the gametype we like. You may claim that the public lobbies was all about stomping noobs, but then you clearly did it wrong.
Lets look at the facts: Smurfing is gone and there is no visible stats, so reintroducing lobbies wouldnt satisfy those who wanted to troll noobs. On the other hand, you can "smurf" by joining and quitting automatch games, and you can have your friends on teamspeak and automatch together if you want easy wins.
Lobbies allowes people to play the maps they want, the gamemode they want, they can talk with the other players and do some basic planning and you can filter out the players that would make the game lagg. Sounds like a great deal to me.
And if you dont like lobbies there is an extremely easy solution: Keep playing automatch. How would others having fun hurt you?
Stats ARE visible. Bring up a player's steam account, get Steam ID, paste in coh2.org ladder search.
The point is that if lobbies allow you to choose your opponent then it's a gateway to griefing. Whether you do it or not doesn't matter, plenty will.